{"id":235320,"date":"2023-11-12T17:19:06","date_gmt":"2023-11-12T22:19:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coreywilkspsyd.com\/?p=235320"},"modified":"2023-12-18T11:47:06","modified_gmt":"2023-12-18T16:47:06","slug":"how-to-stop-making-excuses-and-start-making-changes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coreywilkspsyd.com\/how-to-stop-making-excuses-and-start-making-changes\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop Making Excuses and Start Making Changes"},"content":{"rendered":"
You can make excuses, or you can make changes\u2014but you can\u2019t do both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Most of us claim we want something, but all we do is make excuses about all the reasons we haven\u2019t gotten it yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But it’s not our fault.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
See, humans have 3 psychological traits that create this issue:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n These traits have helped us survive as a species in the past, but are the root of many of our problems today\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Combined, these traits mean we\u2019re great at finding and avoiding problems\u2014not solving them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, we\u2019re decent at problem-solving, but finding solutions takes dedicated effort. Finding problems comes naturally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Which is why it\u2019s so easy for us to fall into the trap of becoming great at finding every single problem (aka, excuse) keeping us from achieving the thing we claim to want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re ready to stop making excuses and start making changes, here\u2019s a cognitive restructuring technique to help you switch from being problem-focused to solution-focused\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Turn \u201cbut\u201d into \u201cso.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Here\u2019s what I mean\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022\u2022\u2022<\/p>\n\n\n\n Most people follow this formula:<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
But is a Problem<\/h2>\n\n\n\n