Navigating an identity crisis, defining “enough,” and doing $10k work

Building Blocks: Actionable insights to build an Intentional Life

Hey everybody,

Here’s another batch of actionable insights to start your week off right, so you can be more intentional with how you live, work, and create.

Let’s get started.

Insight 1: The right questions can help you navigate an identity crisis

An identity crisis is common after a big change.

You ask:

“Who am I if I don’t do X anymore?”

“I’ve achieved what I set out to do. What now?”

The issue is most people think they have to attach their identity to one thing, like checking a box on an application.

But we’re too complex for any single identity to encompass everything we are.

There’s a better way to approach a major life change and overcome an identity crisis.

Here’s an article I wrote after I had multiple friends struggle with it.

Check it out here:

3 Better Questions to Help You Overcome an Identity Crisis

Insight 2: “Enough” is relative

Being a high achiever is great—the constant desire to improve drives us to do amazing things.

But it’s easy to lose ourselves in the pursuit of excellence.

What is “enough?”

When are we “enough?”

How will we recognize success if we never stop and define what “enough” looks like for us?

Katie Farrell, a Board Certified Coach, explores this idea in her article, “What is enough?

Insight 3: Focus on $10k work

Khe Hy, founder of RadReads, is all about helping people be more productive so they have more time to spend on what matters.

His concept of $10k work is a prime example of optimizing for leverage instead of busyness.

“$10,000 per hour work is the process of identifying your highest leverage activities and committing a small amount of time to them each day. It’s the fast tortoise strategy on steroids (and it’s how Jeff Bezos became the richest man in the world).”

But many of us get trapped doing $10 work.

“$10/hour work is busywork. Full stop. A litmus test for $10/hour work is: could I do this hungover? Nuff said.”

If you want to learn more about the differences between $10, $100, $1000, and $10k work, check out this article:

The magic of doing $10,000 per hour work

Question for the Week

How can you do more of what matters, and less of what doesn’t?

Insights in Action

One of the best ways to clarify your thinking is to write it out.

So if you want to develop your thinking on this question or start applying insights from today’s newsletter, send a tweet to @CoreyWilksPsyD with your thoughts and put #BuildingBlocks at the end so I can find it.

Not ready to “think in public” yet? No problem. You can also reply to this email if you want to share your thoughts with me.

Until next time—memento mori,

Corey Wilks, Psy.D.

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Certified Professional Coach