“That’s just the first part. What others call you, you become. It’s a terrible magic that everyone can do — so do it. Call yourself what you wish to become.” —Catherynne M. Valente, The Girl Who Soared Over Fairyland and Cut the Moon in Two The majority of my job as a psychologist is helping people untangle the damage […]
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“Do you think I should go to therapy?” As a psychologist, I get this question a lot. Like most questions about psychology, my answer is “it depends.” Do you need therapy? Maybe not. Would you benefit from therapy? Absolutely. Some people need therapy to help them work through negative experiences they’ve had in the past or to cope with
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Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words can never hurt you, right? I’ve been practicing therapy since 2014 and studying psychology since 2009. My experience? Words do hurt. The labels we give ourselves have a powerful effect on our identity and self-esteem. Stupid, ugly, worthless, unlovable, broken — these words carry weight. If we label ourselves as broken, our actions
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